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PostSubject: Sad Son   Wed Dec 05, 2007 9:04 pm

Lately Devin has been acting kind of funny. Like that fake cough kind of thing, which I was noticing recently, thinking he wants me to keep him home from school for some reason. He's been more quiet lately too. Tonight he was eating dinner in his room and I made him one of his favorite side dishes (tater tots, lol) and he wasn't eating. I just knew there was something wrong.

So, I questioned him, asked him if he had a bad day. He said "No", at first, but I could tell he wasn't telling me something. So, I finally got it out of him that he wants to quit the basketball team. He says it's just like last year, when the other team members won't pass the ball. You know, the typical ball hog thing. So, while he's been able to play defensively, and he does that very well, he's had no ball time at all. Then today during practice, he said that he made an embarrassing shot and that some of the players made cracks about it. But that is what kids that age do. I tried to tell him that I would have played it off, and just kind of laughed along with them. He just basically ignored it.

So anyway, I don't know what to do. He actually only had one game so far, then he has one more. We told him he should give it more time. Tim mentioned talking to the coach, but only after seeing if this keeps going on for a few games. I wasn't able to go to the first one, but it seems it's the same group of kids that keep passing the ball to eachother. I guess they'll actually hold onto the ball until one of these kids are open. Sounds kind of cliquish to me. I don't know. We're still new to this whole thing, so anyone who has some kind of experience with kids in sports and any advice to offer, that'd be great.


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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Wed Dec 05, 2007 10:09 pm

Pam, I am so sorry that the other members of the team aren't really being a team. Going to the coach might be the best thing to do......altho, I have had coaches tell me that I am just imagining things, so be prepared for him to be just as insensitive as the kids are..........All I know is, kids these days can be SO cruel....No



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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Wed Dec 05, 2007 10:16 pm

{{{ Pam}}} Something just doesn't sound right, Pam. Don't kids play what the coach said? How come the coach didn't see the other players are not involving Devon in the game? I hope I'm wrong, but definitely talk to the coach and listen to what he has to say first. If that doesn't go anywhere, I would pull Devon out of it. Good luck Pam!!



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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Wed Dec 05, 2007 11:03 pm

{{{Pam}}} I don't have any advice, but I can add my prayers.
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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Thu Dec 06, 2007 12:01 am

Don't you just love team sports. I've been there and it isn't easy. Your kid doesn't give a rat's behind what you think; all he knows is he's not part of the group. We didn't let our son quit in mid-season. We always made him tough it out and by the following season he was ready to play hockey again.

Then one year, it all clicked for him and he was getting more play time. He played hockey for 13 years and he now works at a ice rink. He would still play if he could afford it.

I'll be praying for both Devin and you too. It isn't easy being a parent either.


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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Thu Dec 06, 2007 3:28 am

Pam, if I may, if he wants to quit, and is not happy, I would let him quit. I hope that I did not offend you by saying that, but my sister had the same problem with her son, only he was in the choir. He was unhappy with it, and she let hiim quit. She didn't want him to be unhappy with what he was doing.

I hope all works out. ((Pam))
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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Thu Dec 06, 2007 6:26 pm

Savannah wrote:
{{{Pam}}} I don't have any advice, but I can add my prayers.

Same here Savannah. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys.
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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Thu Dec 06, 2007 11:04 pm

Had my prayers, my dear.

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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Fri Dec 07, 2007 1:14 pm

Thanks so much, everyone. I really and truly appreciate everyone's advice and prayers. Especially since this is all still new to us.

He had his second game yesterday. I went in there with high hopes that something would happen just to boost his confidence. He was put out with a squad to start the game. The coach changed up the squads and the kids he was with, well, they played like a team and passed the ball and just played so well together. That squad scored the most out of any of the other squads that went out after them. Devin managed to score two of the points. He had a great game. He scored, got a steal, an assist, it was a really great game. Even one of the other kids who was having the same kind of problem as Devin, had a really great game. I don't know if it's because after the first game, the coach saw the problem himself and decided to change things up for that reason, or what. But whatever it was, it worked. Tim never even had a chance to talk to the coach yet. Devin told him he didn't have to, that he wants to stay in.

So, hopefully that good game gave him the confidence boost he needs to keep on going. I know every game can't be terrific, but he knows that too, most importantly.

But thanks again for your prayers, I really believe that made a difference.


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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Fri Dec 07, 2007 6:53 pm

That is great. I hope Devin has fun the rest of the season.


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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Sat Dec 08, 2007 12:09 am

I agree, Lori!
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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Sat Dec 08, 2007 8:25 pm

Aww, well that's good. I tell you though, some kids can just be so cruel. mad
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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Sat Dec 08, 2007 9:37 pm

I am just seeing this now, but I'm so glad everything worked out! I hope it continues to go this way and your son is able to have fun and that everything with the team goes well.




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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Sun Dec 09, 2007 5:24 pm

glad everything worked out!
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PostSubject: Re: Sad Son   Sun Dec 09, 2007 7:52 pm

Thanks everyone!


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