What do you think

My Oldest daughter has a predicament on her hands, this is the same daughter that was planning on getting married in October and maybe preganant. Well here's the thing her boyfriend broke up with her twice this week and the last time he told her that he didn't want her staying there,(they live with his mom) and she doesn't want to move back home. Well the thing is I'm not sure if they are going to work things out this time, I hope they do but I'm not sure. My husband wants to force them to get married if she is preganant, but with the divorce rate so high these days, I don't think they should be forced to get married if she is pregant just because of that. I think if they do get back together and married it should because the want to not because the have to or are forced to. The boy told her even if they don't get married he will still help support the baby. What do y'all think should they be forced to be married if she is preganant or not. Like I said I don't think they should be forced to be married. I don't want her to be in a miserable marriage or have to go through a divorce in a year or two. I would appreicate any opinion I could get .

I totally agree with you, cinlynn! It's never a good thing to be forced to get married, for whatever reason.
To raise a child is a difficult thing, especially at her age (if I remember correctly your daughter is 17, isn't she?) And to raise a child within an unhappy relationship is even more difficult.
Since I'm close to your daughters age, I can relate to her and I know for sure that to me it would be the worsed thing if my parents would force me into a marriage I can't be sure of, just b/c of a baby.
I don't know your daughter but from my point of view I would feel best, if my parents would support me no matter whether I decided to get married or not and if I therefore had the freedom to choose on my own.
Just my thoughts, I pray the two will work it out in whatever way.

I agree Annika!

I agree that, even if she turns out to be pregnant, they should not be forced into marriage. They should only marry if they are in love and want to. With them fighting and breaking up, this doesn't seem like the case.

I guess the main thing she needs to do is find out if she is expecting and then she can make decisions from there. It doesn't sound like they really want to get married.

If she is pregnant and they don't get married, I hope she plans on going to court to make sure he pays what is due his child and they are able to be civil to each other for the sake of the child they may have.

If she isn't pregnant, they should really think about if they want to be together. If not, then they should chalk it all up to experience and move on.

Good luck on whatever they decide!

I agree also. They need to do what is right for them and the baby ( if she is pregnant).