You can choose your friends...

Little House Lady Number of posts : 2761

...but family, you're stuck with. Or so it seems. My extended family has always been, well, a bit dysfunctional, I guess would be the best word to use. My cousin Jasmine got engaged over Christmas, and we had a lot of conversations online about her wedding plans and such, and in one conversation, she said, "I'm going to call you tomorrow, I have to ask you something that's too important to ask about online". Considering the surrounding circumstances, I thought that maybe she was going to ask me to be in her bridal party. Well, the phone call never came "tomorrow" and the next evening, our mothers got into an argument (over something completely unrelated, that didn't even affect us). Jasmine has since stopped talking to me except for an occasional email forward (which is hardly the same as our normal conversations were). Just today, my family gets a phone call from my aunt, who says that Jasmine asked her daughter (my other cousin), to be in the bridal party. It was surprisingly mainly b/c Jasmine and Melissa never really even spoke. They are far apart in age and Jasmine had moved away when Melissa was still little. Jasmine and I are the ones who were, at one point, pretty close. We grew up together and throughout the craziness of our family, I always felt we had a sisterly bond. And even though things had changed since our mothers' argument, I held out some kind of hope that "this too shall pass". But this just seems like the final straw to me. I feel that she's doing this to purposely hurt me - b/c the reasons I already mentioned and b/c she let so much time pass before doing it. I know I'm babbling (as usual) and I'm sorry for wasting a post on something that, in the grand scheme of things, is really trivial. I just want to let it go. I can't seem to get it off my mind, but I don't want to be bothered with this anymore. I did nothing to Jasmine - I want to forget about this ridiculous situation that has nothing to do with me. I want to just say, when she wants to grow up and come to me to talk, she knows where to find me. But I can't get it off my mind :( That's what's bothering me the most - that for as much as I want to let it go, I keep thinking of it.

You can choose your friends... ChristinaKeeper2

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"It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures and to be cheerful and have courage when things go wrong."

Subject: Re: You can choose your friends... Fri Jun 01, 2007 7:59 am

:alright: Christina.......I understand you completely, and I am believing more and more, that MY family is right here on this forum.....hang in there kiddo! grouphug

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Families can be tough. Sometimes mine drives me crazy. Still they usually come around. Some take longer to get it, but it happens in the end. Remember you have people who love you and are there for you. Remember them and be with them and the people who are being problems just need to grow up or be put aside. If you ever need to talk... I am here to listen.

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{{{Christina}}} You're not wasting a post, sweetie, and if it's hurting you - it isn't trivial. Any time you need to talk, you know we're here to listen.

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AWWW,I'am sorry girll

Little House Lady Number of posts : 2761

Rhonda wrote:: :alright: Christina.......I understand you completely, and I am believing more and more, that MY family is right here on this forum.....hang in there kiddo!

Isn't that the truth! In a lot of ways, you all know more about me than these weirdos who happen to be related to me by blood. I don't know what I would do without my safe haven full of good people <3 Thank you for letting me vent and making me feel better :)

"It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures and to be cheerful and have courage when things go wrong."

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I'm sorry your going thru this. This forum is like a second family. Love

Hang in their. We'll be here for you.:rainbowfaces:

Subject: Re: You can choose your friends... Sat Jun 02, 2007 3:53 pm

Me and my one niece were the best of friends when we were young. But as we got older, she talked to me less and less. In her wedding she had people she only knew a few years in her wedding. I have known her my whole life. But I didn't really care that I wasn't in her wedding. She has her own life now and I have mine. Anyway, I hope you feel better soon. Hang in there! Cool

Beckie

LETS GO PENS!

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Heh, my view on most of my family is, if I wasn't related to them, I'd never speak to them again.

Sorry you got a bum deal Christina.

Little House Lady Number of posts : 2761

I like your philosophy, Larry. LOL. To be honest I'm wondering if I will even be invited to the wedding. Since our mothers' argument no one has really been speaking to each other. In that case, I will stop making an effort.

"It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures and to be cheerful and have courage when things go wrong."

Subject: Re: You can choose your friends... Sun Jun 03, 2007 3:20 pm

I think there are always tensions at family weddings. It's such a stressful time for all concerned, trying to please everyone which we all know is impossible.

Just hang in there, Christina. Yiu haven't done anything wrong and maybe your cousin will realise this once things calm down a bit.

It sure is true about picking your friends rather than your family!

We're all your friends here and you know you can talk to us about anything. If it's bothering you, it's not trivial and talking about it usually helps.

"A problem shared is a problem halved." How true.

You can choose your friends... MaureenKeeper

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