BabySitting..I Need some Advice!

[b]Well I've been babysitting This 9 yr old girl when her parents were working and whenever they went out for a few hours! Everything is usually fine! We play games or watch tv.. do crafts or go outside to play!...Last time I was loooking afther her! Things did't go to well, The child was acting different this time. She was like compling how bored she was, The child has everything & she was still like so bored. She has her own vcr/dvd player in her room.Video games own comptures..Lots of books & toys! I gave her ideas on some stuff we could do but she would say NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! and even before i could say it..She called her mother and father at work many times compling how bored she was! Then she want to go out for luch and her mother already told me things she could have at home to eat i know of course how to make soup and grill cheese and so on.she tells her parents i can't bake anything! *That kind of annoyed me* So we ended up walking in the cold all the why to the pizza store ending up i paying for it...(she did't use her money, I feel like should't have to do that) I mean i don't mind taking her has long has she has own money!


then when we got back home she calls her father compling shes sick!(she did't tell me her stomach was bothering me) So on the phone her father was asking whats going on and how come iam not doing anything about it..Well she never told me anything was wrong..She has something a problem with her stomach and it gives her very bad pains and she was crying the poor dear! When i talked to her mother on the phone she told me things i could do so i went to do them like get her some pills she did't want it..She just tells me to leave her alone..She doesn't want my help or me to be with her..But yet on the phone she complains to her parents iam not doing anything..Hopw can i do soething if she won't let me....I just broke down crying when she went to bed in her room! I just felt so bad1 I thought i was gonna get into trouble but i did't!


she is a very nice and sweet child don't get me wrong. I understand right now shes going threw a wrough time and is not feeling good. It must be very hard on a little girl.....


any advice on what i can do next time this happneds?


Thanks for listing![b]


Ps: sorry for a huge post!

Wow Krissy, this little girl sounds spoiled rotten to me. #1....she should not be allowed to call her parents any time she feels like it. I have been babysitting since I was 12 years old (and am a childcare provider now) and never has one of the kids I've sat for been able to call their parent. That is for me to decide if I feel a 9 year old should talk to their parent while they're out, or at work. Anything she needs to tell them can go through you. My guess is that the stomach pains were all about getting attention. She's an overindulged child and she'd rather 'play games' and create drama than actually 'play'. My advice to you would be to tell her how it is next time (if you really want to go back there!) and let her know that you're in charge. Not her parents, and not her. You tell her plain and simple, "here are your options----we can do a craft together, or play a game, or you can play on your own. If you don't want to do any of those things, you can go to your room and pout until your parents get home. Sorry, but with a child like that you need to lay down the law! Good luck next time!

Amy wrote:

Wow Krissy, this little girl sounds spoiled rotten to me. #1....she should not be allowed to call her parents any time she feels like it. I have been babysitting since I was 12 years old (and am a childcare provider now) and never has one of the kids I've sat for been able to call their parent. That is for me to decide if I feel a 9 year old should talk to their parent while they're out, or at work. Anything she needs to tell them can go through you. My guess is that the stomach pains were all about getting attention. She's an overindulged child and she'd rather 'play games' and create drama than actually 'play'. My advice to you would be to tell her how it is next time (if you really want to go back there!) and let her know that you're in charge. Not her parents, and not her. You tell her plain and simple, "here are your options----we can do a craft together, or play a game, or you can play on your own. If you don't want to do any of those things, you can go to your room and pout until your parents get home. Sorry, but with a child like that you need to lay down the law! Good luck next time!

Thanks for taking your time and reading this. I think you could be right about it being about "Attention". I even told her "You should go lay down for a while". Yeah i agree she should't of called her parents that many times. She even did this told her father i wan't to talk to him but i never said i did.. (That really annoyed me) Another thing that put me off is they were jumping of the stars on to the floor(the parents let them) She took my jacket and put it on the floor with other things so it be soft when they fell down and i told her "No she can't use it, she took it anyways" I don't think she appreactes all the stuff she has. I never even had all this stuff has a child.

I think i will have to do that with her, be more tuff and not let her get away with stuff...Iam gonna have to tell her hows boss.

sweetheart wrote:

Amy wrote:

Wow Krissy, this little girl sounds spoiled rotten to me. #1....she should not be allowed to call her parents any time she feels like it. I have been babysitting since I was 12 years old (and am a childcare provider now) and never has one of the kids I've sat for been able to call their parent. That is for me to decide if I feel a 9 year old should talk to their parent while they're out, or at work. Anything she needs to tell them can go through you. My guess is that the stomach pains were all about getting attention. She's an overindulged child and she'd rather 'play games' and create drama than actually 'play'. My advice to you would be to tell her how it is next time (if you really want to go back there!) and let her know that you're in charge. Not her parents, and not her. You tell her plain and simple, "here are your options----we can do a craft together, or play a game, or you can play on your own. If you don't want to do any of those things, you can go to your room and pout until your parents get home. Sorry, but with a child like that you need to lay down the law! Good luck next time!

Thanks for taking your time and reading this. I think you could be right about it being about "Attention". I even told her "You should go lay down for a while". Yeah i agree she should't of called her parents that many times. She even did this told her father i wan't to talk to him but i never said i did.. (That really annoyed me) Another thing that put me off is they were jumping of the stars on to the floor(the parents let them) She took my jacket and put it on the floor with other things so it be soft when they fell down and i told her "No she can't use it, she took it anyways" I don't think she appreactes all the stuff she has. I never even had all this stuff has a child.

I think i will have to do that with her, be more tuff and not let her get away with stuff...Iam gonna have to tell her hows boss.

PS: Oh yeah her mother did tell me that is was ok for her to call her father but i was like thinking she would only call like one time.(nothing wrong calling one) I belive only if something really "Seriously happneds" Then you call the parents!

wow, it sounds like this girl caused a few problems for you! how old is she?

ingallsfan2008 wrote:

wow, it sounds like this girl caused a few problems for you! how old is she?

shes 9 almost 10

Amy wrote:

Wow Krissy, this little girl sounds spoiled rotten to me.

I have to agree with Amy, she does sound like she's pretty spoiled, and she's just trying to cause problems for you, which is not fair for you at all!


I'm not sure if this would help, but did you try talking with the girl about why she acted the way she did?

ingallsfan2008 wrote:

Amy wrote:

Wow Krissy, this little girl sounds spoiled rotten to me.

I have to agree with Amy, she does sound like she's pretty spoiled, and she's just trying to cause problems for you, which is not fair for you at all!


I'm not sure if this would help, but did you try talking with the girl about why she acted the way she did?

No, she should't act like this with me! But i think a lot of this has to do with her being ill. I guess she thinks it's ok for her to act like this becuz she's sick 7 she can get away it. I just can't handle her very well when she's like this. I think mybe the problem is she doesn't want her parents going out to the movies on fridays when shes like this.

I know this other girl ( A teen) used to babysit her all the time.(she doesn't anymore) I wounder if she acted like this with her.

I really can't add anything to what Amy said. It sounds like she is testing you and seeing what she can get away with. Like Amy mentioned, in situations like that you have to lay down the law and let her know who is in charge.

And no, you shouldn't be paying for her lunch. Any time I have watched children and did something special like that, the parents always left money for it.

Good luck! If things don't improve I would think about looking for a new babysitting job. It sounds stressful!

I agree with you about paying for food Pam---that's ridiculous. The parents should have at least left some money.

sweetheart wrote:

No, she should't act like this with me! But i think a lot of this has to do with her being ill. I guess she thinks it's ok for her to act like this becuz she's sick 7 she can get away it. I just can't handle her very well when she's like this. I think mybe the problem is she doesn't want her parents going out to the movies on fridays when shes like this.

The best thing to do, from here on out, is to tell the parents you'll only come back to watch her if she's healthy. You have a drama queen on your hands there, LOL, and it's best to at least know that she doesn't have the 'out' of blaming her behavior on not feeling good.

sweetheart wrote:

I know this other girl ( A teen) used to babysit her all the time.(she doesn't anymore) I wounder if she acted like this with her.

would you be able to talk to the girl who used to babysit this little girl, and ask her how the little girl acted? that might help you a lot.

ingallsfan2008 wrote:

sweetheart wrote:

I know this other girl ( A teen) used to babysit her all the time.(she doesn't anymore) I wounder if she acted like this with her.

would you be able to talk to the girl who used to babysit this little girl, and ask her how the little girl acted? that might help you a lot.

I was thinking about it,Wasn't sure if i should or not but mybe it may be a good idea.

Amy wrote:

I agree with you about paying for food Pam---that's ridiculous. The parents should have at least left some money.
yeah, the kid asked me how much money i had with me.(noone of her bussin) if we went to kfc she would of expced me to pay the difference.....Yeah if the parents left her some money then that's fine or if she pays for her own money no problem..she probly thinks iam louded with money lol

sweetheart wrote:

No, she should't act like this with me! But i think a lot of this has to do with her being ill. I guess she thinks it's ok for her to act like this becuz she's sick 7 she can get away it. I just can't handle her very well when she's like this. I think mybe the problem is she doesn't want her parents going out to the movies on fridays when shes like this.

The best thing to do, from here on out, is to tell the parents you'll only come back to watch her if she's healthy. You have a drama queen on your hands there, LOL, and it's best to at least know that she doesn't have the 'out' of blaming her behavior on not feeling good.

Yeah she sure sounds like a drama queen....yeah see some days she won't complain about or cry about her stomach! lol ir days she puts on an huge act lol

Thanks everybody for your help and advice! iam gonna have to be tuffer with her now and like u say let down the law am not gonna let her get away with stuff.Least try my best.