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MattLabMyLove wrote:

I am single and probably will be for life. I had my first boyfriend at 21. Always had bad luck. I am just bad in relationships, so I am not the one to give advice. I just ruined a friendship with a guy because I got mad at him. I hope you do find a good man for you though.

Aww, sorry to hear about that. I never had relationship. So, I wouldn't know any good advice about relationship. I do get angry at times. I hope, if I meet a guy, I don't scared him off, if I mad @ him about something. That's why, I'm scared of dating. Never once dated. I wouldn't know, how I will react. I'm shy around guys. (Unless their my family) Even online. I get shy around guys. But guys on this forum are nice. Young & old.

JW wrote:

Gin wrote:

He would too Jacob.....lol

What Can i say i am

Jacob, you are a hoot!

MattLabMyLove wrote:

I am single and probably will be for life. I had my first boyfriend at 21. Always had bad luck. I am just bad in relationships, so I am not the one to give advice. I just ruined a friendship with a guy because I got mad at him. I hope you do find a good man for you though.

Aw, Beckie, don't say that!! Hey, we ALL make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up about this. The most attractive thing to guys about a woman is her confidence. Put your big girl panties on, and get back out there! How do you know what's to come? I have a friend who found love at 38, was married at 39, and had her first child at 40, and her second at 42. Believe me, she certainly didn't expect that!! There IS no 'timetable' for love....it will come to you probably when you least expect it. But listen, each relationship you've had so far has taught you something about yourself, right? Learn from it, dust yourself off, and implement what you've learned with the next guy. If it's meant to be, he will see past your faults and only the beautiful person that's in front of him. He IS out there, Beckie, I promise you that. (((HUGS)))


A side note, I was married at 20. My hubby and I will be celebrating our 22nd in March. It was not ideal, and honestly I didn't know that we would make it---our first 10 years were rough. But we did manage to persevere on and find the good stuff, and we are going strong. But that's not true for many many young married couples. So often, it's the couples who find love much later in life, that have great relationships/marriages right out of the gate, and that is because they know themselves so well. They're able to communicate with maturity and sensitivity. It makes a huge difference. I think back to some of the petty fights my hubby & I would have, and think, wow, I was just a BABY back then. I would never 'pick' the arguments now that I did then. I had not developed and matured yet, and neither had he. So don't write yourself off yet, Beckie--- You can take these life experiences you've had, and grow from them, and hopefully you can be healthier with each relationship. Maybe the next guy won't be 'the' one, but don't look at it like that. Don't 'force' it to happen---trust me, you'll know when it's the right guy.

Well said, Amy.

Amy wrote:

big girl panties

Thanks Rob.


And...


By the way, I love your avatar.

Thanks! It's Renoir's In the Meadow.

hope everybody single meets some one

Thanks Savannah. The photography business is so slow right now. Its so discouraging.


My brother called tonight and I told him he was up for auction here on the forum...he asked if he had any hits....(TOLD YOU he would say that.) I told him several had passed including Jacob. He said thats okay, he didn't think he wanted to share room on the bathroom vanity anyway. I asked him what he was doing ....sharing a bowl of spaghetti Ohs with his dog Molly. He said ....one spoon. He will remain single a LONG time. yep.

Good luck everyone. I do think there is someone for everyone. Don't give up hope.

Gin wrote:

My brother called tonight and I told him he was up for auction here on the forum...he asked if he had any hits....(TOLD YOU he would say that.) I told him several had passed including Jacob. He said that's okay, he didn't think he wanted to share room on the bathroom vanity anyway. I asked him what he was doing ....sharing a bowl of spaghetti Ohs with his dog Molly. He said ....one spoon. He will remain single a LONG time. yep.

Just for the record, I pass as well.

Gin wrote:

Thanks Savannah. The photography business is so slow right now. Its so discouraging.


My brother called tonight and I told him he was up for auction here on the forum...he asked if he had any hits....(TOLD YOU he would say that.) I told him several had passed including Jacob. He said thats okay, he didn't think he wanted to share room on the bathroom vanity anyway. I asked him what he was doing ....sharing a bowl of spaghetti Ohs with his dog Molly. He said ....one spoon. He will remain single a LONG time. yep.

I love it!!!


Oh, and Gin, I forgot to mention that picture of your brother and niece! Just beautiful!! Sure do wish you lived closer, you would be my photographer for sure. Not to mention, my antiquing buddy.

sweetkrissy2011 wrote:

hope everybody single meets some one

I hope that too, for people that wish such a thing.

Joe wrote:

sweetkrissy2011 wrote:

hope everybody single meets some one

I hope that too, for people that wish such a thing.

Amy wrote:

JW wrote:

Gin wrote:

He would too Jacob.....lol

What Can i say i am

Jacob, you are a hoot!

MattLabMyLove wrote:

I am single and probably will be for life. I had my first boyfriend at 21. Always had bad luck. I am just bad in relationships, so I am not the one to give advice. I just ruined a friendship with a guy because I got mad at him. I hope you do find a good man for you though.

Aw, Beckie, don't say that!! Hey, we ALL make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up about this. The most attractive thing to guys about a woman is her confidence. Put your big girl panties on, and get back out there! How do you know what's to come? I have a friend who found love at 38, was married at 39, and had her first child at 40, and her second at 42. Believe me, she certainly didn't expect that!! There IS no 'timetable' for love....it will come to you probably when you least expect it. But listen, each relationship you've had so far has taught you something about yourself, right? Learn from it, dust yourself off, and implement what you've learned with the next guy. If it's meant to be, he will see past your faults and only the beautiful person that's in front of him. He IS out there, Beckie, I promise you that. (((HUGS)))


A side note, I was married at 20. My hubby and I will be celebrating our 22nd in March. It was not ideal, and honestly I didn't know that we would make it---our first 10 years were rough. But we did manage to persevere on and find the good stuff, and we are going strong. But that's not true for many many young married couples. So often, it's the couples who find love much later in life, that have great relationships/marriages right out of the gate, and that is because they know themselves so well. They're able to communicate with maturity and sensitivity. It makes a huge difference. I think back to some of the petty fights my hubby & I would have, and think, wow, I was just a BABY back then. I would never 'pick' the arguments now that I did then. I had not developed and matured yet, and neither had he. So don't write yourself off yet, Beckie--- You can take these life experiences you've had, and grow from them, and hopefully you can be healthier with each relationship. Maybe the next guy won't be 'the' one, but don't look at it like that. Don't 'force' it to happen---trust me, you'll know when it's the right guy.

Thanks for the advice Amy. I just don't want to be to old when I get married and have kids. Anyway when I am in a relationship I try and keep my temper at bay, but then I just can't help it anymore. I just feel I will never change. It seems to hard. I have been told by a few ex's that I am psycho. That sure doesn't help matters and makes me think there is something wrong with me. It's strange thought because I only get a temper when I am in a relationship.

I don't think that you are.

I want stay single rest of my life. I'm scared to have a relationship with other guy. I just don't trust men.

Buttercup wrote:

I want stay single rest of my life. I'm scared to have a relationship with other guy. I just don't trust men.

That's a shame, if the only reason is that you 'don't trust men'. There are great guys out there, (I'm not one of them btw ) but I hear they are out there.
Please don't think that I'm making fun of your comment, I'm not. It is sad that some things in your life have given you such an overwhelming negative view of men. I hope you can learn to trust again. How? I don't know, I guess you gotta find your own path, but if you want a partner in the future, you gotta get over your past.

Wise words, Joe.

Hey, how come you don't have an avatar?

Couldn't have said it better Joe

Joe wrote:

Buttercup wrote:

I want stay single rest of my life. I'm scared to have a relationship with other guy. I just don't trust men.

That's a shame, if the only reason is that you 'don't trust men'. There are great guys out there, (I'm not one of them btw ) but I hear they are out there.
Please don't think that I'm making fun of your comment, I'm not. It is sad that some things in your life have given you such an overwhelming negative view of men. I hope you can learn to trust again. How? I don't know, I guess you gotta find your own path, but if you want a partner in the future, you gotta get over your past.

I could say the same thing about girls...

Rob wrote:

...Hey, how come you don't have an avatar?

I do now. I have a question for alex. Why are you whipping your Keepership? Not appropriate, young man.

He's just emphasizing that he doesn't trust girls. :b

I have major trust issues as well, because of my past and also because I hear of so much infidelity.

hope you meet a trusting guy