Bullying?

Ironically my sister posted this today....she is the CEO of our center for grieving children in our city.

http://www.childrengrieve.org/why-people-die-suicide

I just found out Jennifer Livingston will be on Katie Couric's tv show today! In fact, she's on right now (I had to call & tell my Mom to tape it ASAP). She's talking about the bullying issue on the show! If if's on where you are right now (and you're home), see if you can catch it! If not, I'm sure it'll be on abc.com later tonight (or tomorrow).

Amy wrote:

Rhonda, that is fabulous. I have some teacher friends I would love to share this with....is there a link to an article on it?

No, Amy, it was something I found on Pinterest...here is another version:

Bummer I missed the special with Jennifer...I'm sure it will be online.

Thanks Rhonda---I saved it!

I just hope bullying at schools and online will stop!

sweetkrissy2011 wrote:

I just hope bullying at schools and online will stop!

And bullying online happen more often than we can really think! I've read about a lof of those cases and some of them were realy scary.

Vanesa.

Vanesa wrote:

sweetkrissy2011 wrote:

I just hope bullying at schools and online will stop!

And bullying online happen more often than we can really think! I've read about a lof of those cases and some of them were realy scary.

Vanesa.

tue

Online theirs more bullying. I was being bully, yesterday. I play on Yoville. Some of the events, are crazy. The bullies, love to bully people. One event. This bully, is telling everyone, I was calling her a name in private message. (Which I never I did.) I went to other event. Other girl, say the same thing. I was calling her name. (Which was lie.) I rarely talk in yoville. Usually, when someone send me private message, I'll replied back. (If, I want to.) Then, I went to other event. This girl was private message me. Saying, I was ugly. I told her, I wasn't ugly. She said: says who? I said: says me. She said: I saw your picture. Now, I don't know. How can she? Unless, she saw my FB profile picture. But, I had it going. So, i didn't ask her. How she can see my picture.

Buttercup wrote:

Online theirs more bullying. I was being bully, yesterday. I play on Yoville. Some of the events, are crazy. The bullies, love to bully people. One event. This bully, is telling everyone, I was calling her a name in private message. (Which I never I did.) I went to other event. Other girl, say the same thing. I was calling her name. (Which was lie.) I rarely talk in yoville. Usually, when someone send me private message, I'll replied back. (If, I want to.) Then, I went to other event. This girl was private message me. Saying, I was ugly. I told her, I wasn't ugly. She said: says who? I said: says me. She said: I saw your picture. Now, I don't know. How can she? Unless, she saw my FB profile picture. But, I had it going. So, i didn't ask her. How she can see my picture.

Ah! I never understood those people who sends you a message saying you are ugly. It happened more than once to me, and I had to laugh...The person who said it to me, was a man who asked me a telephone number to contact me, and when I answered that I hardly knew him, he became angry amnd began to write I was ugly , whuth the face of a Whitch. It was a man who must have been around 50, and it made me laugh, since I don't know how a very grown up man could act like a child.

Maybe this person could see your FB profile picture because she is a hacer. There's a lot of hackers there in Youtube.

Vanesa.

Buttercup wrote:

Online theirs more bullying. I was being bully, yesterday. I play on Yoville. Some of the events, are crazy. The bullies, love to bully people. One event. This bully, is telling everyone, I was calling her a name in private message. (Which I never I did.) I went to other event. Other girl, say the same thing. I was calling her name. (Which was lie.) I rarely talk in yoville. Usually, when someone send me private message, I'll replied back. (If, I want to.) Then, I went to other event. This girl was private message me. Saying, I was ugly. I told her, I wasn't ugly. She said: says who? I said: says me. She said: I saw your picture. Now, I don't know. How can she? Unless, she saw my FB profile picture. But, I had it going. So, i didn't ask her. How she can see my picture.

aWW,IM SO SORRY TO HERE,some ppl are just rude and mean online.

I don't get it to me. I just ignore, what they say. Sometimes, not right away. If, i told myself, these people are just loonies. Don't worried about it.

good thinking.

I totally agree with the ignoring the nonsense (what I call it)

I don't have much sympathy for people who do something drastic (whether to themselves or to others) because of what others say to you, do to you or put you through.

I say this all the time to the students in my school (not only in my class). Think for yourself. No one MAKES you do things at the end of the day. YOU are not a Sims Character. You have your own thinking, feeling mind. So what if they are going to tell on you or NOT be your friend if you DON't do what they say? WHO wants a FRIEND like that???

A few days ago, I posted this on Jennifer Livingston's FB page. This is about something that was said to me this weekend and it bothered me. Anyway, the below is what I posted:

"Hi, I have a question! This is for Jennifer or anyone else who reads this...anyone can answer! Anyway, someone is very concerned about my weight gain, and she is trying to help me...however, even if she has the best intentions...is it already considered bullying if she's actually saying that "I'll never find a man if I don't lose the weight?" I don't think she means to bully, but would that be considered bullying? The worst part is, I'm starting to believe her! :( "

You won't believe the first response I got to this. Talk about shallow! I'm sure what this person said is not true...because I choose to believe not all guys...or all people in general, can be that shallow. I also know that women can be just as shallow (that was evident with this woman's comment!). Anyway, this is the response I got back from someone (name withheld):

" It sounds like she is just looking out for your best interests. Most men do not want a fat girlfriend or wife. Men that do go for out of shape women are typically nothing to look at themselves. So if you want to attract an attractive man, you'd better heed your friend's advice. Make sure you exercise everyday and eat right. If you are serious about landing a man then get serious about your personal appearance."

Like I said, I know this can't be entirely true...but you know what? If this is true, then I choose to remain single forever. Even if I all of a sudden turn into the perfect woman with the perfect body, I will still remain single because I don't need a shallow, conceited jerk in my life. One more thing...I'm not "fat," but a tad overweight. I do intend on losing the weight and shaping up...but for ME. I want to feel good, I want to be healthy, and looking good is actually the least of it. I'm certainly not doing it to get a man! He has to love me for who I am, and if that can't happen...so be it.

Thanks for letting me vent!

Oh Julie, I am so sorry she said that to you. That was very wrong. People say the most insensitive things online when they don't know the person, and can't see their reaction. It's horrifying and disgusting, the things people feel 'free' to say. In answer to your question...YES, the person was being a bully. They may have had 'good' intentions, but it certainly came out all wrong.

This person needed to remember this saying:

"Always be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle."


{{{HUGS}}}

Thanks Amy. What's even more heartbreaking is the person who was actually being the bully. I'm so embarrassed I don't even want to say! I even feel like asking her if she was a bully when she was a kid?

Thank you Lisa. I guess it gets to me because it doesn't help my self-esteem at all! That one person's answer really through me for a loop too. At least she wasn't overly rude or anything...but it made me see people...mostly men...in a new light...at least at that moment. You're right, I want to look my best and especially be healthy, whether a man is around or not.

I actually feel better about it now...but...it's hard knowing the person I love the most is being a bully...even subconciously.

I would love to hear a guy's opinion on this as well! What do you guys thinks? Be honest now...

Lisa wrote:

Julie, I'm really sorry that that happened to you. Sometimes people really do have good intentions, but just don't think about what they're saying. (It often happens when there's been some kind of tragedy...The nicest people can say the most incredibly hurtful things, and not even realize that what they said caused pain.) So maybe the person really did have good intentions - but the truth is, there really are people who look at more than just the surface. Sure you want to look your best, and be healthy - but you'd want that whether a man was part of the equation or not. A man or woman who would choose their significant other based solely on their appearance is not likely to have a lasting, fulfilling, true-love kind of relationship. What happens when looks fade? (And they eventually will no matter WHO it is.) Or when a better-looking person comes along? There has to be more to a relationship than merely a physical attraction for it to last.

I couldn't agree more.

Lisa wrote:

As for who said that to you....sisters, aunts, and mothers are notorious for that kind of "helpful" phrasing. No kidding - several of my friends over the years have told me that their mother has said to them, "No man will ever want you if you _______" (Fill in the blank with whatever fault was being addressed.) Try not to let it get to you even if it was someone VERY close to you.

Oh, I didn't realize this was someone you know, Julie. That does make it worse. But Lisa is completely right....the close friends and relatives are going to be the most opinionated because they 'care' the most, and yet they are also often the ones who don't think through what they're saying, or put themselves in the other person's shoes. So yes, try not to give this another thought...you sound like you have a good attitude (that you wouldn't want the kind of man who is only interested in physical appearance anyway), so don't let someone else's unfounded opinion weigh you down. Their view is not the 'end all be all'....consider yourself more 'evolved' than they are.

The person who told me that was someone very close to me...but the person who responded to my post was some random stranger that apparently agreed to what the other person said to me. That's sad!

Ah, I gotcha. Yes, that is sad, but doesn't surprise me a bit about the random person jumping in there, giving their hurtful two cents. That kind of thing has become rampant these days.

And truthfully, people who've never had a weight problem really have no right to comment. It frustrates me when skinny people try to share all the answers on 'all you need to do' to control your weight. If you haven't been there, then zip it. You know? Most people really have no idea how many facets are linked to weight gain...it seems like a lot of skinny people just figure we like to 'eat'! It is about so much more than that, and whether you're a little overweight or morbidly obese, we who fight the battle know and sympathize each other's plight.


And one other thing I want to say, Julie. I have several friends in their 40's who have found their match, WELL into their 40's. One of my good friends found her man at 39, married at 40, and had both her kids into her 40's. She certainly had lost hope that she would find the right man for her. But wow, they are one of the best couples I know! Sometimes finding your true love later in life is God's way of looking out for you. Look at the divorce rate! I am one of the lucky ones, who married at 20 and am still deeply in love with my hubby, and vice versa. But that is such a rare thing. 'The one' is out there for you Julie, I am sure of it. Be patient, and don't listen to advice or opinions that are going to zap your confidence. My guess is a confident woman is the most attractive thing to a man.

Thanks again Amy. I do have faith I will find someone who is right for me. Last year I made the mistake of "settling." That did not end well...at all. I'm also patient, but when a certain person says things like that to me, it makes me lose all hope. I know enough though that not all men are that shallow...and to be honest, she makes guys look bad!

Yes, what that person said actually made me furious. I bet she's a twig. The ones I really can't stand though are the ones who brag about being able to eat all they want, and never gain weight! Grrrr...

You know what's funny though? My problem is I gain weight because I DON'T eat enough. At first that didn't make any sense to me, but my doctor explained why. I eat maybe one meal a day, and I literally go 24 hours or more without eating at times! My body has gotten accustomed to that, and now, if on a rare occasion I eat more than a meal a day, I literally get sick! I get full too easily. Maybe once in a while I'll "nibble" something just to put something in my stomach...but in reality, lunch is my biggest...and only...meal of the day. My doctor said I'll NEVER lose weight if I continue to do that. I'm trying though!

Julie wrote:

I would love to hear a guy's opinion on this as well! What do you guys thinks? Be honest now...

I think a lot depends on the mans' age. A guy in his 20s is much more likely to focus on the superficial stuff. A guy in his 30s, not so much. And in his 40s and beyond... if you find someone who only cares about looks, it's probably best to run - not walk - in the opposite direction.

Of course, looks DO play into it. When we meet someone in person, that's usually what makes the initial impression. But if someone is sufficiently evolved (good word, Amy), the less it matters.

That makes sense; thanks Rob!

Lucky for me, I'm not a Cougar, ( ) so no way would I date a guy in his 20's or 30's (unless it's late 30's, which is not 'too' far away from me).

Someone told me, that I need loose weight, if I want get a boyfriend. If, he doesn't like what he sees. He's not the one for me. Cause, I'm not going loose weight, to please a man. I don't want look like Victoria's Secret model. I want be me. Stay the same. That God, attend me to be. I don't want some guy changing me, turn me into a puppet. I'm suppose look like a model. I don't want that. I'm not going turn him into one of my favorite actors. Make him act, talk, dress, & etc... like the actor. I want my future boyfriend to be who he is. Not someone else. I hope, he will do the same thing. Not saying to me, oh you should look like this one model or actress. Who wants be someone's puppet? I don't. Sure, I don't look like drop dead gorgeous model. At least, I'm beautiful from within. My advice, if a guy wants to change you, for who you are. He's not the one. Theirs all fishes in the sea.


Anytime, someone I know, got married. I got jealous. I'll be thinking. Where's my future husband? Maybe God wants me be single, rest of my life or He has a man for me. But, I have to wait for His time. Sure, seems like forever. Like, I want man now. But, God knows my future. Right now, it's not my time, to have relationship with a guy.