Prayers for guidance

Hello all,

I hope everyone is doing well. I haven't been around a lot lately, but I hope you don't mind me asking for prayer. Actually, I need to ask for two separate things.

The first is that my hubby really wants me to go back to work, or bare minimum, find something from home that makes significantly more than I do with my writing and book promotion business. The challenge: my writing time would become next to non-existent. With my second book coming out this fall, I don't want to lose any momentum. I know I am being unfair in expecting him to carry the bulk of the burden, but I don't want to put my dream on hold either. Please pray that God will show me His plans for this situation.

Also, my in-laws were in a car accident on Monday. Thankfully, they are both okay, but the car is totaled. After seeing the car up close, I'm surprised the injuries weren't worse. This is the second accident in the past year for my father-in-law. I fear he is getting beyond the abilities to be a safe driver because of his arthritis. At first, he said he planned to stay a one-car family for a while, so I figured that might reduce some of his driving, but he's already talking about how he doesn't like being without his own car. My sister-in-law and I have been talking, and at some point I feel we're going to have to have a discussion about him giving up his license. I doubt it will go well. He doesn't wear his seatbeat, so the airbag probably saved his life. It would be dreadful if he died as a result of his stubbornness; or just as bad, killed someone else because he shouldn't be driving any longer. Please pray that we'll find the right words when the time comes to have this discussion and that he can accept them.

Thanks.

Cheryl

Prayers for you and your family Cheryl.....Hang in there.....

I'll be praying for you, Cheryl.

Thanks ladies.

Dreams in the sense or your work is a hard thing to understand. I'm sort if there too Cheryl and I know when the money is needed alot can get put off. I hope you can work out a solution.

How old is your father n law? When is his drivers license going to expire? Sometimes the fact that they have to pass an eye exam will have some weight on whether they can renew.
I do think its time to sit down and talk about it. Honestly, I believe by the age of 70 folks need to have to watch some kind of video on what could happen. It might open some hearts up to handing over the keys.

Good luck....thinking and praying for you.

Gin wrote:

Dreams in the sense or your work is a hard thing to understand. I'm sort if there too Cheryl and I know when the money is needed alot can get put off. I hope you can work out a solution.

If I didn't have one book out and another on the way, plus this ghostwriting project that is close to completion, I think I would feel differently.

Are you talking about your photography or something else?

Gin wrote:

How old is your father n law? When is his drivers license going to expire? Sometimes the fact that they have to pass an eye exam will have some weight on whether they can renew.
I do think its time to sit down and talk about it. Honestly, I believe by the age of 70 folks need to have to watch some kind of video on what could happen. It might open some hearts up to handing over the keys.

Good luck....thinking and praying for you.

He's 81 and will be 82 in September. I don't worry about his eyes as much as I do his mind and reaction time. His arthritis complicates things further. I had to write out his Christmas cards last year. There are days he can barely turn the page of a book. Both hips have been replaced, so he has trouble moving. One day, he fell off the couch and they had to call the fire department to pick him up. He's not feeble, but climbing in and out of cars, getting up from a sitting position, and being steady on his feet are definite issues. He's also on blood thinners, so I'm concerned if he gets into a serious accident, he'll be in serious trouble. Combine all that with the fact that he's fairly deaf now, and that's not exactly the best situation for driving.

Thanks for the prayers.

Prayers for Cheryl & your in-laws.

DEar Cheryl, I think you can work in something you rally likes, like teaching people how to write and being payed for it, so you can be in touch with your writing activities, and you could even improve them helping others. This could work, I think...

I'll pray for your father-in-law...My grandpa had just the same problem. He was loosing his skills to reacting when driving, and he woulñdn't accept it. When we said to him we didn't want him to drive any more he was literally in rage, supposing we were telling him he was old and cannot do things. He liked to drive just to show he was still young, but we were fraid he could suffer a serious accident getting himelf and other people into trouble.

I'll be praying for your father-in-law, since I can understand you VERY WELL...

Vanesa.

Thanks Melissa and Vanesa. I haven't been able to convince him not to buy a car, so we'll see what happens.

I'M glad that your father-in-law was okay

will be thinking good thoughts for you.

Prayers for you and your family, Cheryl.

Thanks ladies. I appreciate it.

I don't know how I missed this! Sorry I'm getting on here late, Cheryl. I really feel for your situation. Both of them. I'm dreading the day when my dad will have to be told he can't drive anymore. He's 72 and luckily we don't have to worry just yet. My dad is really 'with it' and I never feel unsafe when I'm in the car with him. But yeah, it'll happen one day.

And I am sorry about this job situation. I can see how it might feel like your losing your dream. I pray that's not the case, even if you do have to cut back on some writing hours. I know it won't be easy, but hopefully you can still find enough time in the day to fit in time for your passion. Is there any chance you can just do part time work? That might be a nice compromise, if possible.

I will be praying, Cheryl. (((HUGS)))

Thanks Amy. My father-in-law's driving has made me nervous for a while. Now, with all his ailments, it seems worse. I don't let him drive my girls around, even for short distances.

My hope is only to find part time work, but with everything else going on right now, I don't think I would manage to find much time to write even under those circumstances. I hope I'm wrong.

bethandmanly wrote:

Thanks Amy. My father-in-law's driving has made me nervous for a while. Now, with all his ailments, it seems worse. I don't let him drive my girls around, even for short distances.

It freaks me out to think how long my mom might have had Alzheimers symptoms without us realizing it, and was driving my kids and nieces and nephews around. Hers did come on quite suddenly, but I'm sure she probably shouldn't have been driving for awhile. It's good that you're addressing the situation and at least your kids are not riding with him.

Cheryl wrote:

My hope is only to find part time work, but with everything else going on right now, I don't think I would manage to find much time to write even under those circumstances. I hope I'm wrong.

I hope you're wrong too, Cheryl. I know that writing is something that really needs to be 'full time' to get far, especially with raising young children. Hopefully when the girls are a little older you'll be able to devote more time to it too. I hope it all works out for you Cheryl....keep us posted!