Wedding plans

Wow! All of a sudden the big day is almost here. I look forward to hearing how things are going.

How is your dad doing, Christina?

Having beeen to a couple of weddings recently, I too have been wondering how Christina's plans are going. I'm sure she's stressed, big time, but hope she gets the chance to drop in and let us know how it's going.

Well, I'm certainly glad it's you and not me in all that toule. I never want to go through that again, no matter how much fun we had and what a beautiful day it was.

Sorry your MOH is being such a PITA. Is she jealous that you're getting married?

Congrats on the house. I'm also glad to hear Dad is doing well.

Have fun with the final preparations. I look forward to lots of pictures!

Thanks for the update, Christina. Congratulations on the house. After the wedding and you have some time, you have to tell us all about it.

Thanks for the update, Christina. You have been on my mind. You certainly have been busy between getting ready for the wedding AND buying a new house!! I'm sorry your MOH hasn't been better. Like you mentioned, you find out who your true friends are. It's also good that your dad has been busy helping you with the house. I'm sure he enjoys helping you very much.

Christina!! It's so good to hear from you! I'm glad to hear that your Dad has been enjoying working on the house with you and Mike. That's so great! But I'm sure sorry to hear that your MOH isn't the MOH that you deserve. If you want to give me her email address, I'd be glad to write her and speak to her about that. ( ) I'm glad that the bridesmaids are helping to make up for it. Bless their hearts!

ChristinaAL wrote:

PS - Savannah, I had a picture of the centerpieces a few weeks ago - if I remember this weekend, I'll try to find it (not sure WHERE I saved it on the computer ROFL) and upload it here

Oh, thanks!!

Thanks for checking in with an update Christina! Congratulations on your new home!! That is so exciting...Bill & I did that too, and it was wonderful. So great that your dad has had that focus too...I'm happy he's doing better. Mike sounds like he's been fabulous through this whole process...you have to have that support to get through it. I am so very sorry that your MOH is being such a jerk...sounds like she just doesn't have a clue! You know, this happens ALL the time. Weddings can bring out the worst in people...you know all about my saga with my own "Bridezilla" best friend...almost a 20 year friendship gone in a heartbeat. My SIL lost her best friend during their wedding on Mackinac Island as well...her MOH put a huge damper on her big day. I wish you didn't have to have your MOH, but just focus on Mike and all your true friends and family, and hopefully the issues with her will fade away into the happiness of the day.

Wedding planning is just so crazy, and those last weeks are stressful, but before you know it the big day will be here and you'll have fond memories to look back on! Are you going on a honeymoon? And what is the actual date? I know it's in September...

Please let us know the details of your beautiful day, and post pictures!!!! Best wishes for a glorious wedding!

Take care Christina, and again, thanks for filling us in!

Love Amy

P.S. Does Matt L. know that he's about to lose you to another man? :unsure:

thanks for the update! I know your big day is coming soon, and I hope all goes well for you!

Christina,
You and your family will be in my prayers. I'm so excited for you! I can't believe that next week at this time, you'll be a married woman. LOL!! You're going to be a beautiful bride. Have a wonderful time on your wedding day, and a fabulous time on your honeymoon to Florida!! I'll be looking forward to seeing your pictures.

Sorry to hear about this, Christina. I'll be praying for him.

I'm really sorry to hear about this, Christina.

ChristinaAL wrote:

He refuses to even think about anything and just keeps saying that he won't take medication that is "going to kill him."

Do you know if there's any basis for him thinking this way? Were the meds giving him any bad side effects?

Oh, Christina! I am so sorry to hear that you have this worry at a time that should be one of the happiest in your life.

Possibly, if your dad wasn't happy with the medication he was on before, he could talk to his dr. about trying a different medication. I know some people don't like the way a certain medication makes them feel.

I am keeping all of you in my prayers.

And, I just want to say, enjoy your wedding day. It's okay to enjoy it and be happy, and just be a princess for a day.

Rob wrote:

I'm really sorry to hear about this, Christina.

ChristinaAL wrote:

He refuses to even think about anything and just keeps saying that he won't take medication that is "going to kill him."

Do you know if there's any basis for him thinking this way? Were the meds giving him any bad side effects?

Long-term, antidepressents can be a health issue, especially neurologically. Some immediate side effects can be loss of a certain drive that I don't need to explain, headaches, dry mouth, sleep issues, and more. The other thing is that you need to wean yourself off of them. You can't just one day decide to stop. It's not good for your body at all.

I'm sorry that this has happened Christina. I wish I had some wisdom to share with you, but I really don't. I made a decision to come off antidepressents in 1996 and I've never regretted it. I was warned over and again about how the next depression would be worse and I really needed to be on these drugs for the rest of my life. I managed to prove that theory wrong, but every person is different. While I understand your dad's concern about the potential side effects of taking the drugs, it seems like he's using it as an excuse to not take them; and your poor mother probably doesn't know how to help him.

I hope that things improve for all of you soon. Try to just focus on yourself and your special day. I know it will be hard, but this is a day you'll want to remember happily, so accept my virtual hug and try to enjoy yourself this weekend. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Rob wrote:

ChristinaAL wrote:

He refuses to even think about anything and just keeps saying that he won't take medication that is "going to kill him."

Do you know if there's any basis for him thinking this way? Were the meds giving him any bad side effects?

I know with my mom, she is very against medications too---I really don't know why it's gotten into her head that medications are all 'bad'....some ARE, but hers was helping her, and she chose to get off of it too. She kept it from my sister and I, I'm guessing because she thought we would lecture her for it. She actually was able to conquer her depression without out meds...I never saw any withdrawl symptoms (neither did my dad), and she was very determined to do this on her own. It sounds like your dad wanted to do the same thing, and probably didn't want to be 'lectured' by the family, and that's why he didn't tell. I agree, it was wrong of him, but if he was that opposed to the drug, I can somewhat understand that he wanted to try to get off of it, without 'interference'. The difference between him and my mom is, she was actually able to do it successfully. Like Pam said, maybe he just didn't feel 'right' on it....I don't think my mom ever did either, and that's why it scared her.

pamh36 wrote:

And, I just want to say, enjoy your wedding day. It's okay to enjoy it and be happy, and just be a princess for a day.

This is exactly what I want to say. I know it's going to be hard to keep this out of your mind, Christina, but do not allow this to overshadow the biggest day of your life. It should ALL be about you and Mike, you bothdeserve it. I'm sure Mike is very worried about how this is affecting you...make this your 'gift' to him, to focus on the day for yourselves, and put this out of your mind for later. Your dad was wrong to wait until now to spill this, but without the medication, perhaps his judgement was off. My guess is he wishes he hadn't said anything until later. You will need to work on him again, to convince him that not being on anything is not working for him, but for right now, you're going to have to let this go, for you and Mike. I will be praying for him and the family.

And I'll be praying for you two on your special day! It only happens once, so enjoy every minute! Don't worry about the people looking at you---you are going to be absolutely beautiful...you ARE the princess, so soak it up! I'm so excited for you!!!

bethandmanly wrote:

I made a decision to come off antidepressents in 1996 and I've never regretted it. I was warned over and again about how the next depression would be worse and I really needed to be on these drugs for the rest of my life. I managed to prove that theory wrong, but every person is different.

I think you and my mom were in the same boat, Cheryl. I am happy for both of you that you were able to beat this!

I'm thinking about you today, on your wedding day, Christina. I can't wait to hear all about it!

{{{Christina}}} I was thinking about you earlier this morning! Wow! I'm truly touched that you thought to stop in and visit with us on your wedding day.

I'm so glad that you've all decided to put everything on the back burner so that today can be completely enjoyed. I can't wait to see pictures!

*a toast to Christina* May your wedding day be everything you ever dreamed of. May it be a day that you and Mike look back on fifty years from now with nothing but joy and happiness.

Hope your day was as special as you are, Christina. I was thinking about you yesterday, praying everything went well and I bet you wow-ed them all!